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The Feminist Bachelor Recap, Episode 1: My Inner Drunk Girl

Let the journey to find love begin.

On Monday night, Bachelor Chris Soules began his season-long swim into a pool of conventionally pretty, ultra-traditional women competing for his hand in marriage. As a feminist, I’m horrified by The Bachelor. I’m also deeply excited to watch every single minute of it.

First of all, I want to address what I think it means to write a feminist take on The Bachelor—if I was doing a truly non-lazy and incisive feminist response to the show, I would talk about larger problems with how gender, race, class and more are portrayed in reality TV, and about media, and like, capitalism. The fact that the show’s politics are incredibly not-progressive to an almost unbelievable degree and that it promotes a totally archaic view of gender norms, and depicts a world that’s virtually absent of people who aren’t straight and white and cis. It is so dumb and bad, you guys. Truly. I’ll touch on all of these ideas here, but I also can’t deny that I’m basically deeply committed to watching every episode of this terrible show, for pretty un-feminist reasons. These are:

Reason 1: In 2008, Erica DiSimone, a Girl Who Went to My High School, was on The Bachelor. And so I watched. And because each season’s Bachelor or Bachelorette is a well-loved rejected suitor from the previous season, I became hooked for SEVEN YEARS. Continue reading

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ALL THE FEMINIST BOOKS: A Girl’s Guide to Taking Over the World edited by Karen Green and Tristan Taormino

We asked our regular contributors to write about the feminist books that they love—books that struck a chord, for one reason or another, books they couldn’t put down, that they’ll never donate, that are underlined and dog-eared and bookmarked eternally, that you can maybe borrow, but you most definitely have to give back. Here’s Cathy on A Girl’s Guide to Taking Over the World:

photo-181A feminist book that really affected me is A Girl’s Guide to Taking Over the World edited by Karen Green and Tristan Taormino, which came out in 1997, when I was 16. I lucked out by stumbling upon the book—an almost encyclopedia of riot grrrl zines—in my local Half Price Books in San Antonio, Texas. (The same bookstore also had a surplus of Kathy Acker books I would later find and then have my feminist literary world forever altered in the best possible way.) In 1997, riot grrrl zines were not new to me, but this book made zines and their authors the most accessible they had ever been, and made them seem legitimized in this funny way—here they were in a book I could buy at the store and check out from the library: “See mom and dad, the stuff that my pen-pals write IS getting taken seriously.” At the time, I was defending zine culture to my parents, who were worried I was getting brainwashed by queer punk feminist liberals (little did they know I was basically born a queer punk feminist liberal). I did not flaunt the book to my parents, who actually would have been scandalized by some of its confessionally honest contents, but I knew if they confiscated it like they did some of my zines, I could just go check it out from the library and start reading all over again.

Riot grrrl zines changed my life, and I am still so glad this book collects many of the zines I was already reading and many that I had never heard of. A Girl’s Guide is organized by themes (e.g., Chapter 1: “friends secrets sex,” and Chapter 2: “body image health”) and features excerpts from zines such as Tammy Rae Carland’s I <3 Amy Carter, Witknee’s Alien, Lisa Crystal Carver‘s Rollerderby and many more. It begins with an introduction by Ann Magnuson and ends with addresses and prices for all the zines featured inside. If only all of those zines were still being made and I could send $1 and a few stamps to those addresses. If only.

To this day, my own writing and performance are greatly influenced by the raw and confessional voices that epitomized so many of the zines I used to read. I have always been fairly shy, and they encouraged me to just finally say what I needed to say. I appreciate both the urgency and permanence of so many zines in A Girl’s Guide. They were not Facebook statuses you could go back and delete, but at the same time they were often limited edition. Riot grrrl zines didn’t just teach me about feminism; they taught me about friendship and keeping in touch. I am forever grateful that being a feminist and being a good friend are rooted in the same place.

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We Out (T)here: Afrofuturism in the Age of Non-Indictments

“African-Americans are, in a very real sense, the descendants of alien abductees…Speculative fiction that treats African-American themes and addresses African-American concerns in the context of 20th century technoculture — and, more generally, African-American signification that appropriates images of technology and a prosthetically enhanced future — might, for want of a better term, be called Afrofuturism.” – Mark Dery, “Black to the Future: Afro-Futurism 1.0”

Still from Frances Bodomo's "Afronauts"

Still from Frances Bodomo’s “Afronauts”

I’ve been thinking a lot about the future. What will I do, who will I be, how will I love, will everything be okay. I’ve been thinking about the planet and how it is not doing very well. I am thinking about marches and earthquakes and The Book of Revelation. I am thinking a lot about death. I am starting to understand I’m not welcome. In my ear I hear Sun Ra whisper “space is the place.” In my other ear I hear Kanye say “we wasn’t supposed to make it past twenty-five.” This is what Black American women are wondering: What’s up to us?
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Dear Carole: A Review of All Day, Talking by Sarah A. Chavez

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The speaker in Sarah A. Chavez’s first collection of poetry, All Day, Talking (dancing girl press, 2014), is in mourning. This mourning primarily revolves around the speaker’s friend, Carole, but there’s also a longing for a past life—the life the speaker had when Carole was alive. There’s an identity Chavez’s speaker tries to resurrect for herself throughout the poems, one whose mantra could easily be carpe diem. Identity is an important concept for Chavez—she’s a scholar of Chican@/Latin@ & Native American literature and culture and a self-proclaimed “mestiza.” On her website, she has two bios to choose from (“Keepin’ it Real” and “Longer, More Professional”), indicating her investment in the idea of multiple or mixed identities. The poems in All Day, Talking show a speaker trying to build a new, independent sense of self after the loss of a loved one. These poems are loaded with concrete detail, so as the speaker reminisces about Carole, about her former life, the reader does, too. Chavez doesn’t give us every single detail, but she doesn’t have to. The bond between the speaker and Carole evokes the feelings of friendship and love that, if we’re lucky, we each get to experience in this life. Continue reading

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Blame It on My Wild Heart: On #365FeministSelfie, Stevie Nicks, & Dailiness

On December 18th, WEIRD SISTER hosted The Feminist Selfie, an event exploring #365FeministSelfie, Hello Selfie, and other projects and performances that look at selfies through a feminist lens. I read this piece about participating in #365FeministSelfie, a project created by Veronica Arreola in response to the ongoing debate about selfies as empowering media vs. narcissistic cries for help. #365FeministSelfie invited feminists to post a selfie each day for the entire year of 2014, which I did—give or take a few days. In honor of the year, and the project, ending, I’m posting this piece today along with a bunch of my #365FeministSelfies from the year.

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UntitledOn Halloween, I snuck out of work early in full work-appropriate Halloween costume and rushed to Soho to make sure I caught the Stevie Nicks Selfie exhibit, 24 Karat Gold, on the last day before it closed. The show is made up of a series of Polaroid self-portraits that Nicks took beginning in the mid-seventies. Some of the photos are taken in her home, some in hotels around the world. In most of them the camera’s remote is hidden. In one of the photos, “The Key,” which shows Stevie leaning against a concrete structure in a pool, she’s holding the remote above the water for the camera to see. She never intended for anyone to see these pictures. But this year she decided to share them with the world. Continue reading

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Rah! Rah! Roundup

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If you were to argue that the only things to look at on the internet this week are pics of dogs in Santa hats, entire families in matching jammies, and your couple friends posing for ironic holiday card portraits, you’d be wrong, but you wouldn’t be that wrong. But fear not: WEIRD SISTER is dedicated to pleasing all you feminist news junkies home for the holidays, feeling your weird sister (or weird brother) roles afresh, experiencing that particular ennui known as “No one in my family is interested in debating the nuances of Beyoncé’s feminism,” and desperately scrolling your phone for something to remind you of your core values. Your hardcore pop literary feminist values.

Well, you’ve found it! Here’s this week’s links roundup:

90s nostalgia now has its own TV show, called Hindsight, debuting soon on VH1. (And if I didn’t feel called-out enough by the “What if you had been less Angela and more Rayanne?” ad I saw in the subway the other day, it turns out the protagonist’s name is Becca. :/ ) You can watch the trailer for the show here.

Speaking of subways, the NYC MTA about to launch its campaign against man spreading, and Gothamist recently interviewed men on the train about whether they were familiar with the term. My favorite response is from the guy who says, “If you notice, every man on the train has their legs wide open, am I correct? But you have to.” But you have to! Such simple, straightforward, elegant illogic.

 

In year-end music news, Ann Powers writes about how “Beyoncé set the bar for the several other women who scaled pop commerce’s heights with her in 2014, to present selves and songs defined by a feminist concept of abundance” and Jezebel rounded up a bunch of smart cultural critics to talk about “Nicki Minaj’s Ass and Feminism.” I also loved this little piece at The Toast called “Requests Made By Blondie During ‘Call Me,’ In Order Of Reasonableness,” wherein “Call me any day or night” is slotted in the “High-Maintenance But Nothing Unusual” category.

It only took 91 years, but this year Disney finally realized that audiences love female protagonists interested in more than just getting married. Marvel’s got some catching up to do, but plans to release Captain Marvel, its first movie with a female lead, in 2017. Manohla Dargis tells us how bleak the situation is for women directors trying to get hired by the six major Hollywood studios, which only released three movies directed by women this year. That’s right, T-H-R-E-E. Dargis reminds us that this probably isn’t a conscious act of discrimination, but the product of ye olde subtle, insidious sexism, which “often works like a virus that spreads through ideas, gossip, and stories about women, their aesthetic visions and personal choices, and doubts about whether they can hack it in that male-dominated world. Of course, the end result is that female directors don’t get hired.”

I loved this interview with Taja Lindley or Colored Girls Hustle on Feministing, which reminds us of the ways fashion and ornament have been historically devalued because they’re aligned with femininity:

Anytime we choose to enjoy and celebrate our bodies, it is a big middle-finger-up to all of the systems and people who would like us to hate ourselves instead, that would like us to be dead instead. Honoring and affirming our bodies by ornamenting them with adornment is a pleasure ritual. It is a freedom ritual to discover and express pleasure in a body that is under constant, severe, calculated, and systematic policing, surveillance, hypersexualization, demonization, marginalization and other forms of attack.

“If I was the fountain, she was the crank”: Dawn Lundy Martin’s essay on moving to San Francisco at 22 at learning from Angela Davis is worth it for the gorgeous prose alone, and is also very wise and very timely.

Last but not least, Ms. has a list of the top ten feminist hashtags of 2014. For me, it was the year of the affirmative hashtags #YesAllWomen and #BlackLivesMatter: yes and yes.

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MATRIGAY PART II: Lesbian Feelings Post-Wedding

Illustration by Laura Cerón Melo

With arepa in one hand and cell phone in the other my prima whispers in my ear: Congratulations on ese matrimonio. I look around, maybe she’s confused? But everyone in this family reunion is busied with alcohol, selfies, and Andres’ new baby boy who is just ay qué cosita más lindaaa.

No, de verdad, she says, biting on the arepa, Congratulations on your wedding. Her right hand lands on my shoulder and I’m searching for the homophobic punchline that would come after that, I’m searching for the, You are banned from Jesús’ family hang-out crew forever. Por lesbiana. Tortillera. Marimacha. I wait for her eyes to lose their glimmer, for her to snap into the conservative Jesús-loving woman I know her to be, but the only thing she says is: Ay nena, you know Ellen Degeneres? I love Ellen Degeneres. I watch her show all the time. Continue reading

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Notes from a White Supremacist: A List of (White) Girls I Wanted to Be

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I am sure I’m a sometimes white supremacist. In the States, growing up a “person of color” (what does that even mean?!?) means growing up suffocating in whiteness—a whiteness so beautiful and total its edges are implacable. For many of us, this translates into wanting “to be someone else,” as Morgan Parker suggests in her article for VIDA. Morgan wants to be Nancy Meyers or Diane Keaton (I’m not sure—does it matter?) and I want to be, have wanted to be, a slew of white things. At times consciously and intellectually—a sick fun—and at others not-so-consciously nor intellectually. Just painfully. A hate comes along with the wanting but it’s all there in a sometimes ecstasy-inducing rigmarole that I’ve labored to turn into writing or art.  Why I’m writing this down now feels like its own kind of art; an interruption by the way of naming. Continue reading

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ALL THE FEMINIST BOOKS: The Healing by Gayl Jones

This month. we asked our regular contributors to write about the feminist books that they love—books that struck a chord, for one reason or another, books they couldn’t put down, that they’ll never donate, that are underlined and dog-eared and bookmarked eternally, that you can maybe borrow, but you most definitely have to give back. Here’s Naomi on The Healing:

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d_cCo003ff1Y4M6KXTXKp48x9Z_XKioeVhpfSyDHh5g,PZXm1Tyd8z9Okw_3_2gHV1uJcqd3Mf6iebfL4miadU0I have always had a sweet spot for stories centered on women with magical powers. I loved watching the show Charmed throughout my high school years and to this day the film Matilda reigns among my favorites. When I read the novel The Healing by Gayl Jones in grad school, finally I understood why I was attracted to female magic on television. It was even more than the power of transformation, agency, and spirit of playfulness that drew my attention. It was the actual healing—these women could fix things including themselves. Continue reading

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